Brandon Piekarsky, who is 17, was acquitted of third-degree murder and ethnic intimidation. Derrick Donchak, who is 19, was acquitted of aggravated assault and ethnic intimidation. Both teenagers were convicted of simple assault. Both brutally beat the 25-year-old Hispanic man, Luis Ramirez, and were only charged with a simple assault. A representative of the Ramirez’s family states that these jurors got it wrong. Glady’s Limon who is the staff attorney for the Mexican American Legal Defense and Education Fund, was at the trial and informed the Ramirez’s family of the verdict is outraged by the outcome of this case. She says, "There's been a complete failure of justice...It's just outrageous and very difficult to understand how any juror could have had reasonable doubt…clearly established that Luis Ramirez was brutally beaten."
Saturday, May 2, 2009
Hate Crime in PA
Brandon Piekarsky, who is 17, was acquitted of third-degree murder and ethnic intimidation. Derrick Donchak, who is 19, was acquitted of aggravated assault and ethnic intimidation. Both teenagers were convicted of simple assault. Both brutally beat the 25-year-old Hispanic man, Luis Ramirez, and were only charged with a simple assault. A representative of the Ramirez’s family states that these jurors got it wrong. Glady’s Limon who is the staff attorney for the Mexican American Legal Defense and Education Fund, was at the trial and informed the Ramirez’s family of the verdict is outraged by the outcome of this case. She says, "There's been a complete failure of justice...It's just outrageous and very difficult to understand how any juror could have had reasonable doubt…clearly established that Luis Ramirez was brutally beaten."
Thursday, April 30, 2009
Sick people who hurt innocent animals
Another incident of this happened in Mount Vernon recently where someone set a draw which had kittens in it on fire. The kittens were only 2 weeks old when they were set fire The kittens were rescued and survived but were meant to be left for dead. According to Shannon Laukhuf who is the executive director for the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals of Westchester says that “Unfortunately we have been seeing a lot more cruelty lately than we care to see…But I've never seen anything like this though, when four kittens were blatantly set on fire."
After these two stories I am sickened by it because I have no remorse for people who hurt animals. People who hurt animals are usually sociopaths who are people who don’t feel emotion. If these people are hurting animals what’s to stop them from hurting people too. These people belong in jail for the maximum sentence and should definitely seek mental help. If you think someone is hurting or neglecting an animal you can call the SPCA’s of Westchester’s 24 hour confidential tip line at 914-941-7797.
Swine Flu how did it get here????
This new flu strain is responsible for killing 149 people and sickened more than 1,600 in Mexico. This could easily become a global pandemic, because of all the traveling people do. About 45 cases have been confirmed in the United States and 28 of them were from students at St. Francis Preparatory School in Queens, where Ms. Lamonaca and 7 of the 11 friends she vacationed with are students.
Health officials caution that they are not sure yet whether the vacationers, who came back to school on April 20 after the six-day trip, caused the outbreak. There was a questionnaire given to students at St. Francis asked about travel to Mexico, but also to California and Texas. Ms. Lamonaca said it was not fair to blame her and her friends for the outbreak and says “No one can prove it”. Ms. Lamonaca said she began to feel sick last week, with a sore throat, aching back and a cough, and is now feeling better. However the article states that she had not been tested for the swine flu. So how can we blame someone for this epidemic if they haven’t even been tested for it to confirm they brought it hear?
Car Crashes
Teenagers also tend to be greater risk-takers than adults because they think everything they do is right. They are less likely than adults to use seat belts, especially when driving with other teenagers even though it saves lives. In 2004 a study conducted about teenage car crashes says that 58 percent of people died as a result of not wearing a seat belt. The article says that teenager’s use of seat belts is least likely in the most dangerous of conditions including, when driving at night, under the influence of alcohol or with several teenage passengers.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Myth About Teen Promiscuity
According to Kathleen A. Bogle who is a professor at La Salle University she says that “There’s no doubt that the public perception is that things are getting worse, and that kids are having sex younger and are much wilder than they ever were, But when you look at the data, that’s not the case.”
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Immigrants in the United States
The study also stated that there is an estimate of 1.8 million children of undocumented immigrants live in poverty, “among children whose parents are unauthorized immigrants, one in three is poor” (Wayne Drash, 2009). This is a very high rate for children living in poverty who are children of immigrants. Also a lot of these children have parents who are constantly working to help make a better life for them here. The study also stated that “children of illegal immigrants make up an even greater share of students in America's primary and secondary schools, with nearly 7 percent enrolled in kindergarten through 12th grade” (Wayne Drash, 2009). People from all around the world come to the United States to get an education and opportunity. The Pew Hispanic research also said that children were more likely to live in a two parent household compared to the other parts of the population. The study states that the “vast majority of all children with at least one unauthorized immigrant parent live in two-parent families which is 80 percent” compared to children who had parents U.S. born being 71 percent. This information is explaining how more immigrants are willing to stay together and be depended on each other to manage rather than to just leave or divorce.
However now in our current economy why would you want to come here when companies and banks are failing? Our current unemployment rate right now is 8.5% people who are citizens and illegal are being laid off in all fields. Many people are in debt and borrowed more than they should have and it’s a big mess. But according to the U.S. Census Bureau, Immigrants without citizenship make up more than 5% of the United States. Immigrants are willing to take the jobs that others don’t want to do but times are now changing and many people are desperate and laid off so this (economic recession) might end up affecting more people than previously thought.
Sex Trade: The New slavery
This is a very big problem which should be addressed and I think that this is more important than the war on drugs. Children, teenagers, young women and men are being bought and sold for their services worldwide by Horney dirty people. People from the United States go to other countries like Mexico and Twain to have sex with young children. My boyfriend’s friend went to Mexico over his spring break and said that people were walking up to him asking him if he wanted sex and one even said “I have a nine year old for you”. This grosses me out and it’s scary to think that someone you know may be involved in this trade. Prostitution is considered the oldest form of work dating back to before the bible.
There are many victims of this and seen as a monetary value not a person with feelings, needs and wants. Many of these victims come from good families and are tricked or kidnapped and forced to do sexual things or their captures threaten their families and their lives. These people are said to be in fact owned by another person. If you think you have come in contact with a victim of human trafficking, call the National Human Trafficking Resource Center at 1.888.3737.888.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Sexting???
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
economic crisis
The economic crisis appears to be influencing the behavior and spending habits of teens, which have conventionally been the “demographic with the highest percentage of disposable income” (Junior Achievement). Teens today admit to being “anxious about the economy and their current spending habits underscore just how concerned they are” (Junior Achievement). Teens in the workforce are facing similar challenges to those faced by adults including wage reductions, their schedules are being cut, or are getting laid off. Also many teens fewer jobs and there is more competition for the jobs for which they’re applying.
Our economy is so bad that parents are asking teens to contribute to the household. Image is from flickr.com/photos/bearmancartoons/3101840139/
Sunday, April 5, 2009
The choking game
According to a article in the nytimes, in the last few years there is an estimate of 82 children who have died because of playing the choking game. The Choking game is a unusual and gradually more common practice, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. This game has many names including “Blackout, Flatliner, Fainting Game, California Choke, Dream Game, Airplaning, Suffocation Roulette, Space Cowboy and the Pass-Out Game” (Tara Parker, 2008). and this video is one girl’s experience on this disturbing game. Image is from flickr.com/photos/bishi/2106685096
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocf9aaIXsBg
The Choking game, which involves deliberately trying to choke yourself to get a quick high is said to have been around for years but is starting to spread. According to Centers for Disease Control and Prevention the “choking game is a dangerous activity that older children and early adolescents sometimes play to get a brief high…they either choke each other or use a noose to choke themselves…after just a short time, children can pass out, which may lead to serious injury or even death from hanging or strangulation”. A theory for this is that “the Internet has made it easier for kids to learn about the game... a search of YouTube turns up several videos warning about the practice, but also several troubling demonstrations by giggling adolescents showing how to play”(Tara Parker, 2008).
Since 2005 there have been at least 60 of the deaths as a result of this game. However sometimes it may be hard to rule out if it is a death or suicides, so sometimes people may be said to have died from one but it was really the other. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says the “number of deaths is probably understated, and other experts agree, noting that choking game deaths, which involve accidental strangulation with a rope or belt, often look like suicides”(Tara Parker, 2008).
There is a website that is named GASP, which stands for Games Adolescents Shouldn’t Play, says that “65 children died in 2007 and 1,800 people in the United States had died playing the game in the past 10 years and most were children and teenagers” (Tara Parker, 2008). Many people haven’t even heard of this game until now including myself that why it is important to know what’s going on with your loved ones before it’s too late, “The C.D.C. reports that most adults haven’t even heard of the choking game and have no idea their kids are playing it” (Tara Parker, 2008).
The game can be played in many ways but the goal is to cut off the oxygen to the brain in order to get high before passing out. Adolescents may used their “hands to squeeze the necks of friends, or they may use computer cord, scarves or ropes” (Tara Parker, 2008). In another way is when, “kids bend down and try to induce hyperventilation by taking deep breaths followed by a “bear hug” from a friend” (Tara Parker, 2008). Signs that a child may be engaging in the choking game include “bloodshot eyes, marks on the neck, severe headaches, disorientation after spending time alone, ropes, scarves and belts tied to bedroom furniture or doorknobs or found knotted on the floor, or the mysterious presence of things like dog leashes, choke collars and bungee cords” (Tara Parker, 2008). People need to discuss the effects of the game with their loved ones and parents should be there to listen to their children.
gang life
Here is a table which explains how the rate of gangs is shown from 2002 to 2006:
Sunday, March 29, 2009
eating disorders part 2
Even as the though the number of obese children is reaching record levels and bringing adult diseases like Type 2 diabetes to the teenager, there is a new obsession with dieting has spread to younger and younger people like teenagers. With excess dieting and exercise it may lead to the risk of eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. According to the National Eating Disorders Association about 42 percent of girls ranging from as young as third grade want to be thinner. About 81 percent of 10 year olds girls are afraid of being gat and about 51 percent of 9 and 10 year old girls are content with themselves when they are dieting.
This can lead to an unhealthy obsessing and it can lead on into the teen and adults years if not addressed. In many ways, this “fixation on weight at ever earlier ages comes at an inopportune time physiologically”. Dr. Marcie Schneider, the director of adolescent medicine at Greenwich Hospital, and Erica Leon, a registered dietitian, both said that “early adolescence as a time when a little bit of pudginess is necessary for proper growth, and youngsters wrestle constantly with their body image”. Erica Leon also said that there are a lot of kids on the fad diets like the South Beach and Atkins diets and that overweight children, who try these diets are at risk for developing eating disorders.
Dr. Katherine A. Halmi, who runs the eating disorder program at the Westchester Division of New York-Presbyterian Hospital in White Plains, said she had also “noticed an increase in younger patients. At the hospital there are 20 inpatient beds treating about 350 people a year. She said that in the last ten years “we've seen a gradual increase in children under 12...I just admitted an 11-year-old last night to our unit... youngest patient with anorexia was only 9 years old”. She explains how peer pressure has a lot to do with it and says that the problems are reaching younger girls. Dr. Halmi says that some come “from families who are very health-food oriented, and many have thin mothers who exercise a lot and are very preoccupied with what they're eating, or older sisters who are concerned about their appearance”.
She also thinks that “Magazines aimed at teenagers contribute a lot... The biggest factor with teens and preteens is their own peers”. Here is a quick film about eating disorders.
The video is from http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RRseSpdGC2s
Dr. Judy Scheel, the director of the Center for Eating Disorder Recovery in Mount Kisco explains the difference between Anorexia and Bulimia. She says that, Anorexia is a mental illness in which the person eats hardly enough to live. These people have a distorted thinking makes them think they are fat. Bulimia, a mental illness in which someone “binges on large amounts of food, then purges it through vomiting or the abuse of laxatives, is on the rise, and is surfacing in younger and younger patients, mostly girls”. Dr. Scheel says that about “90 percent of people with eating disorders are female, and often the male victims are on teams like wrestling and crew, where they must keep their weight low for competitive reasons”. Eating disorders are mainly suffered by the female population. Dr. Scheel believes that where “girls claim the eating disorder enables them to be thin, boys typically state their goal is to achieve or maintain a muscular but thin physique”. She states that the average onset for bulimia used to be “17, but to see teenagers age 14 and 15 with bulimia is common these days”. This is important for people to see the warning signs and get their children help early. I think it has a lot do with parenting and how the parents treat the child. I have friend who’s mother always and still tells her she doesn’t need to eat this is not a good role model for her to lose weight healthily when her own mother tells her not to eat.
Dr. Scheel explains how looking at the dynamics of the patient's family is important also. She says that ''Life is fast paced, and we have not taken a lot of time to really listen to our children, to have relationships with them...It's so much easier to deal with just the behavior, instead of the emotions.'' She says that the parents may “need different strategies to address such issues... I have seen every time is a miss in the relationship, in the attachment, with parents who are consumed with how a child does, not who she is, to, at the other extreme, gross infringement and abuse,'' similar to my friend I discussed earlier. She also describes the loving family who doesn’t ever ask how you are feeling etc. This is important for family members to not abuse their children about their weigh and also to listen to them when they are feeling down. Image is from
Obesity
For teenage girls it can be unhealthier when they gain excessive weight during this time. In an article from USA Today teen girls “often become much less physically active during their teen years, but researchers say that is just when they should move into high gear if they want to control their weight”. It is important to eat healthy and exercise to maintain a healthy weight, but there are always excuses like fast food and no time which keep people from not exercising. Alison Field an associate professor of pediatrics at Harvard says that “many girls teen to cut back on activity during puberty because they may not want to sweat or have their hair messed, and that is the worst possible time to stop being active”.
Researchers and scientists at Harvard Medical School in Boston Massachusetts studied data on 3,914 females ages 14 to 22 and if their weight gain was do to maturing or if their weight gain was unhealthy. The study started in 2000 and 2001 and again from 2003 to 2005. Their research suggested that “Some of the younger women were gaining weight because they were still growing and maturing... But most of the older women had reached full maturity, and their weight gain was more likely to be unhealthy”. In the first study in “2001, about 54% of the young women wanted to lose weight, and 24% were trying to maintain their weight” and only half the group said they exercise once a week and 14% said they exercised five or more times a week. The type of physical activity ranged from sports to dancing.
According to the study the teens who gained an average of 7 pound from 2001 to 2005 were the ones who didn’t exercise or eat healthy. The teens who exercised at least once a week and usually ate limited portion sizes gained on average 5 pounds. The group who exercised more than 5 days a week and limited their portion sizes gained about 3 pounds. Alison Field the professor at Harvard suggests that "the key is to find an activity you like, adding that the habits young women form at this time of their lives may be with them for a lifetime”. Another problem is the portion size at fast food and restaurants they are often double the amount you are supposed to have for the day it is important to watch what you eat and exercise regularly in order to maintain a healthier you.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Peer Pressure to be like them
The article suggests that there are 5 percent of teens who suffer from eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia. Anorexia is when you don’t eat and bulimia is when you eat then purge. The article explains that “teen girls have concerns about their own weight, about how they appear to others and their perceptions that their peers want them to be thin are significantly related to weight control behavior” says psychologist Eleanor Mackey, a doctor at Children’s National Medical Center who was the head of the study. The media related world plays a big part in these children’s perceptions of how they are supposed to look and their friends want them to be the same way because most teens are in cliques. Other studies have found that the cliques which who the teen can identify with can affect if they choose to smoke, drink or take drugs. Teen’s friends can often influence them to be or act like them.
Even though there are pressure to be thin there is also a large number which doubled than the amount of people who are suffering from an eating disorder. There is an estimate of almost a third of young people are overweight, and almost 16 percent are obese according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Being obese places children at in increased risk for a number of health problems including type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease.
Images are from flickr.com/photos/merwing/1570691529/ and
Monday, March 16, 2009
One laptop per child
The followers of this foundation believe that by giving children their person own connected XO laptop and they are giving them a essential resource and a window to the outside world. The One laptop per child XO laptop uses software that is designed for collaborative, joyful, self-empowered learning. The OLPC foundation also states that when the children have access to this type of tool of essential knowledge in today’s world, they become to get engaged in their own education... This helps children access to information and a way to connect with each other and they learn, share, create, and collaborate. It also helps them for their future with the knowledge of technology, and education. This helps to achieve a brighter future for the underprivileged. I do think this a good idea because it gives other underprivileged people a chance of knowledge and education which is often important with advancement and basic skills needed in today’s world.
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Drinking and Driving
It is said that a person’s driving behavior is determined by who is in the car with you. Sometimes especially teenager will drive recklessly or fast to try to impress someone which is not actually cool and it makes you look stupid. Car accidents are the leading cause of death in teenagers in the United States and it is important for teenagers to use better judgment when they get behind the wheel.
Alcohol use among Adolescents and Young Adults
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Teen Suicide and Antidepressants
The FDA has a black box warning “which link the drugs to suicidal thoughts and behavior in young people…the warnings contributed to a drop in prescriptions of the drugs for children and adolescents” (Rubenstein, Sarah, 2008) this is not a good sign for people who need to take medication and are choosing not to because of the warning associated with taking antidepressants. Taking antidepressants can save lives and help stable out your moods which is very important when you’re a teenager because you’re always up and down. It is often hard to correctly diagnosis a teenager because often the symptoms and warning signs of depression can go unnoticed or misdiagnosed. When I was a teenager one psychiatrist thought that I had borderline personality disorder but I later realized that it was anxiety and depression.
The link for this article:
http://rdas-proxy.mercy.edu:2103/pqdweb?index=5&sid=2&srchmode=2&vinst=PROD&fmt=4&startpage=-1&clientid=10766&vname=PQD&RQT=309&did=1546605971&ts=1235503853&vtype=PQD&rqt=309&TS=1235503881&clientId=10766&cc=1&TS=1235503881
Monday, February 23, 2009
Did you know
The length of the video is (4:42).
I enjoyed watching this video and it was very informative and entertaining. There were a lot of interesting facts that i did not know before watching this video. I think that it does show a form of xenophobia because it compares the United States again and again to other countries like India and China. It makes statements like how India has 25% of the population with the highest IQ and its greater than the total of the United States and china will be the number one speaking english country. In the video it said that we are preparing our students for jobs that don't even exist yet. Thats pretty insane to think about because they having be though of to employ people in an area but we are teaching and preparing students to get ready for it. Also that we are using technologies that haven't been inventeed in order to solve problems that we don't even know are problems yet. These are pretty real facts our technology's are going to expand to new technologies in the future and we will face new problems that haven't even surfaced yet. Every class I take now invovles a computer even when I take spanish class I am siting in front of a computer.
Sunday, February 22, 2009
Teen Suicide Prevention
The rate of teen suicide is rising in the United States. In a recent study surveying high school students 60 percent admitted that they thought about killing themselves, and about nine percent admitted to trying at least one. This is an alarming rate. Why do students this young want to die. I don’t understand why they can’t see that maybe after high school life changes. Life can’t possibly be this bad as a teenager but apparently at that age you think that their world is coming to an end for various reasons. It is stated that “Boys commit suicide more often than girls” aap.org I think this is because boys suicide’s are often more successful than girls suicides.
Why has the rate of teen suicide gone up in recent years?
· It’s easier to get the tools for suicide (ex: boys often us guns and girls often use pills)
· The pressures of modern life are greater
· Competition for good grades and college admissions is tough
· There’s more violence in the newspapers and on television
aap.org
Another reason for the rate is the lack of parental interest in their children. Many children in the United States live in a non nuclear family. Each person’s family is different than the next especially in current times. Many children live in single parent or divorced homes and it is hard for children to cope with because there is only one parent there. Also children can grow up with parents that are never around to take care of them which is very tough on a child because they need to learn about the real world quick in order to survive. According to a study about “90 percent of suicidal teen-agers believed their families did not understand them…they also reported that when they tried to tell their parents about their feelings of unhappiness or failure their parents denied their point of view” aap.org. This is showing that parents are not listening and giving their children the attention and support they need when they dare down.
What signs are there to see if my teenager is depressed or thinking about suicide?
Has their personality changed dramatically?
Are they having trouble with his relationships?
Has the quality of school work gone down?
Do they always seen bored, and have trouble concentrating?
Have they run away from home?
Do they talk about suicide, even in a joking manner?
Have they tried to commit suicide before?
Have their appearance changed for the worse?
Are they giving away their things?
aap.org
If you think that you know someone thinking about suicide don’t remain silent. Suicide is preventable but you need to help immediately.
What should I do?
· Ask about it. Don’t be afraid to say suicide it may open the door to them letting you help them.
· Tell them you care about them and tell them that no matter how bad your problems are they can be fixed or worked on and that you are willing to help them through it.
· Ask about how they feel and listen carefully.
· Get professional help from a outpatient or hospital based treatment program.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Teen Suicide
I found this image on flickr.com
Teen suicide is the third leading cause of death for adolescents between the ages of 15 to 24. It is the fourth leading cause for children between the ages of 10 to 14 years old. Teen suicide is an important issue to take seriously because it does happen way more than it should. Last Wednesday a seventeen year old student at the elite Dalton School in New York City committed suicide by jumped to his death from his school building. The authorities said that after he arrived at school he went to the “dance studio, opened a window and jumped…students playing below scattered when the body hit the sidewalk, witnesses told the” nydailynews.com (Lazarowitz, Elizabeth, 2009). The teenager was identified as Theodore Graubard who was described as a “well liked, accomplished athlete and scholar who seemed to have much going for him” nydailynews.com (Lazarowitz, Elizabeth, 2009). He was a junior at Dalton and had won a few “academic awards and was involved in school activities including its web site” nydailynews.com (Lazarowitz, Elizabeth, 2009). What could possibly make this teenager who went to a prestigious school with opportunity and a future end his life at such a young age? Why did this happen and how come no one saw it?
I went to the Dalton’s school web page and I looked at the tuition to this prestige Dalton school and it is $33,100 per academic year. That tuition is more for one year for grades K - 12 than the four years of mercy I am attending to get my Bachelors in Behavioral Science. Why is it so much money to go to a school like that and your not even getting a college education yet and am I not getting a good education because I am not paying as much as them? I just don’t understand why the tutition is so high and how come people pay that much when they can send they kids to public school instead.
I looked at Dalton’s School Mission Statement and it stated that the “Dalton School is committed to providing an education of excellence that meets each student’s interests, abilities and needs within a common curricular framework and reflects and promotes an understanding of, and appreciation for, diversity in our community as an integral part of school life”(dalton.org). This school sounds like they go above and beyond for the students with they own interests and learing abilities in the school setting. I also see that they want to teach the students about the communities as well as work in the classwork.
Dalton school also has 4 major principles that they do daily in school.
1. Valuing all dimensions of each child – intellectual, social, emotional, aesthetic, physical and spiritual.
2. Cultivating values of respect, integrity, compassion and justice to encourage community responsibility, combat prejudice and engage students as participants in a democratic society and global community.
3. Developing intellectual independence and risk-taking through inquiry, direct experience and collaboration.
4. Valuing all disciplines – the arts, sciences, humanities and physical development in an interdisciplinary curriculum, mindful of our historical emphasis on music, dance, theater and visual arts.
dalton.org
After reading that there seems to be too much going on for these children I can easily see why these students are stressed out. I bet this school also has a serious grading system. The school requires a lot of work for these students and probably tough standards to achieve which leads to high stress and anxiety. The student that recently died last week was a sad outcome to a tragedy that could have been prevented. People and especially parents expect so much from teenagers which is a very hard time for teens because of all the changes going one. These are still children and not adults there in between. We need to realizes that sometimes there are some warning signs like stress, changes in mood and appearance, loss of appetite use of drugs sleep, disturbances and depression which are risk factors a teens might be showing if mentally unstable. If you notice a friend or relative is unstable try and talk to them maybe they will open up and talk its worth a try especially in times like now when suicide rates are high.
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Dating Violence
Dating violence can often go under the radar of most people because teenagers are so new to dating and are inexperience. There can also be “pressure by peers to act violently” (acadv.org) especially when it comes to the males because males tend to be more aggressive than women. Also teenagers want to have their independence from their parents and think they have all the answers. Teenagers are very reluctant to tell their parents much especially when it comes to relationships.
This violence can also be influenced by how teenagers look at themselves and other people. Both young men and women can have different views. First for young women they may believe that they “are responsible for solving problems in their relationships, their boyfriend’s jealousy, possessiveness and even physical abuse is romantic, and that abuse is normal” (acadv.org) because their friends and family might go through it as well. The young men might believe that they have the “right to control their female partners in any way necessary, masculinity is physical aggressiveness, they possess their partner, and they should demand intimacy” (acadv.org) and also they might believe they will lose a certain respect from their friends and girlfriends if they are supportive and attentive toward their girlfriends.
To avoid being in a abusive relationship there are a few things to notice or early warning signs that can help you realize if your partner may become or is abusive. Some clues might be:
Ø Extreme jealousy
Ø Shows hypersensitivity
Ø Believes in rigid sex roles
Ø Blames others for his problems or feelings
Ø Cruel to animals or children
Ø Verbally abusive
Ø Abused former partners
Ø Threatens violence
Ø Controlling behavior
Ø Quick involvement
Ø Unpredictable mood swings
Ø Alcohol and drug use
Ø Explosive anger
Ø Isolates you from friends and family
Ø Uses force during an argument
acadv.org
Also there are some common clues that might indicate if a teenager is experiencing dating violence. Some of the signs are:
Ø Physical signs of injury
Ø Truancy, dropping out of school
Ø Failing grades
Ø Indecision
Ø Changes in mood or personality
Ø Use of drugs/alcohol
Ø Pregnancy
Ø Emotional outburst
Ø Isolation
acadv.org
If you are involved in an abusive relationship you must remember that it is not your fault and no one deserves to be abused or threatened. You must get away from your abuser and seek help before it is to late. Abusers tend to get worse over time and not better so it is important for people who are in abusive relationship to take care of themselves and get the help they need because no one deserves it.